Hi there, I’m Ashlei.

By day: freelance creative, blogger, American expat, & soon-to-be mama!


By night: wifey, Netflix enthusiast, online shopaholic, & whiskey girl.

Welcome to Shades of Being Me.

A life & style blog centered on learning how to embrace and celebrate your individuality in style, beauty, and life.

Starting in 2012 as a natural hair and fashion blog known as Kinks are the new Pink, Shades of Being Me is an evolution of what I experienced through the years spent on KATNP.

Here is where I share my adventures and lessons learned in style, travel, culture, beauty, wellness, and life.

So if you’re interested in topics such as:


**Developing authentic style and confidence


**Fully tapping your creative genius


**Building healthy habits


**Cultivating positivity and daily mindfulness


**Expanding your world view


**And living a life that you love


Then Shades of Being Me is the place for you!

I believe there is no right or wrong way to be yourself. What you wear, say, and do should honor who you are and what you stand for.


I also believe:

That finding inspiration in your everyday and saying HECK YES to your curiosities is key to a life that’s bigger, happier, and a hell of a lot more interesting.

That anything is possible if you’ve got enough nerve. It doesn’t matter how slow you go, only that you take consistent action to get where you want to be. An accumulation of baby steps can come together to create something EPIC.

That you have hidden treasures buried deep within you – a powerful resource of imagination, secret talents, and creativity. My mission is to give you the inspiration, encouragement, and tools to help you uncover those treasures and tap into your zone of genius.

And lastly, if I’m being totally honest – I believe a good book, hot bath, and {very} tall glass of wine can cure any bad day. #SorryImNotSorry

To make a long story short: I’m here to simply, fiercely, and wholeheartedly share my passion for creative self expression, cultivating joy, and being unmistakably you.

Whether it’s sharing lessons I’ve learned so you can grow in multiple aspects of your own life or reminding you why you’re freakin’ awesome – even when you think you’re not.

It’s my hope Shades of Being Me unlocks something BIG deep inside you.

That it opens your mind and expands your heart to things you may’ve never considered for both yourself and the world around you.

That’ll encourage you to embrace all the different shades of being you.

And with that I’d love for us to become internet pals!

You can join my mailing list below to get updates on blog posts, special events, and insider styling tips I only share through email.

If you’re interested in any press, collaborations, interviews, or blog partnerships check out my Work With Me page to get details on how we can collaborate.

For any other inquires or if you just want to say ‘hey girl‘ – contact me here

And finally, for daily inspiration in style, beauty, and life come follow my party on Instagram!

Thanks so much for visiting and I hope to connect with you soon!