Hi there, I’m Ashlei.

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By day: American expat living in London, Mama to Mason Fox (with another little one on the way), & writer.


By night: wifey to DCT, Netflix enthusiast, book worm, & whiskey girl.


Welcome to Shades of Being Me.

A personal blog centered on learning how to embrace life and live it to the fullest.

Starting in 2012 as a natural hair and fashion blog known as Kinks are the new Pink, Shades of Being Me is an evolution of what I experienced through the years spent on KATNP.

This is where I share personal stories, adventures and lessons learned in life as I figure out what it means to be a mom/wife/writer/general human being in this wild and wacky world we live in.

To make a long story short: I’m here to simply, fiercely, and wholeheartedly share my passion for creative self expression, cultivating joy, and living life authentically to y-o-u.


So whether it’s sharing lessons I’ve learned so you can grow in multiple aspects of your own life or reminding you why we’re freakin’ awesome – even when we think we’re not.

It’s my hope Shades of Being Me unlocks something big deep inside you.

That it opens your mind and expands your heart to things you may’ve never considered for both yourself and the world around you.

That’ll encourage you to embrace all the different shades of being you.

And with that I’d love for us to become internet pals!

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Thanks so much for visiting and I hope to connect with you soon!