It’s no secret. I’m pregnant (again).
The bump has fully made his (have you heard? It’s another boy!) presence known – there’s no covering it up anymore.
And as much as I want to embrace the bump through what I wear. Contrary to what you see in the photo above – I’ve been finding it to be a REAL struggle.
But before you think – oh she’s going to complain about how her body is changing and she’s getting fat, etc. etc.
That’s not my issue entirely.
This is my second pregnancy, so I know my body is going to change and that my midsection will start to resemble a large beachball.
And I’m okay with that. I enjoy it even – what better excuse to eat half a pint of ice cream in the middle of the night.
Its having to put clothes on my growing beachball that I’m finding I struggle with.
Which is odd for me to say because 1. I love a good style challenge and 2. This is my second pregnancy (and quite soon after the first) so I should be a semi-pro at dressing my pregnant body.
But alas, the majority of things I tend to put on just don’t feel good.
I don’t know if it’s from becoming a mom or just the fact that I’m aging 😭 but the playful sense of style I’ve come to know myself for has been eluding me lately.
Making anything I now wear feel very humdrum and mumsy.
Far from the casual yet chic pregnant soon-to-be-mom-of-two I aspire to be.
Now to be fair, I was filled with a lot of different emotions when I found out I was pregnant the second time around.
But to be really honest – most of what I felt was disappointment.
Mainly because I had just started to break through to my ideal weight and figure post-baby 1. Clothes were fitting in all the right places and I was starting to feel confident in my ability to play around with my style again.
Then I found out there was another peanut growing inside my belly and I swear the very next day my body was like – oh right! Time for us to become balloon-like again.
And having these thoughts has been really frustrating because it makes me feel like I’m being vain or superficial. Especially when I used to pride myself on not letting things like the size/shape of my body hold me back from having fun with style.
But the real reason it frustrates me is because I know it’s a total mindset thing.
I mean I don’t want to throw all the blame on my pregnancy hormones, buuuuuuuut…….they really do mess with my sense of self, motivation, and just general day-to-day life.
They make me fall into a miserable self-fulfilling cycle of feeling like crap, so I don’t bother putting any effort into myself, which makes me look like crap, which makes me feel like crap, and round and round —- you guys get the picture.
But if there’s anything I’ve learned about myself, it’s that it doesn’t do me, or anyone really, any favours to wallow in misery for days on end.
So I had to sit myself down and have a little chat to figure out what could be done to remedy this issue.
For any mama-to-be’s out there – or really anyone struggling to dress their body at the moment. Here are some quick ideas I came up with for breaking this mini style rut:
1. Figure out not only what works, but — more importantly — what feels good to wear
I’ve discovered I’m all about easygoing dresses and that I hate pants.
But with it being the middle of winter, all I’ve been grabbing are leggings and oversize sweaters. And that’s fine, but I’m finding they do nothing for my growing figure and end up making me look (and feel) like a sack of potatoes. Which doesn’t really encourage me play around.
So similar to the photos above, I’m seeing a lot of dresses in my future. Usually with a pair of flats or trainers, but I was feeling sassy so I threw on these boots for the photo op 😉
A few other things that I’ve found work well (and that I enjoy wearing) are dungarees, anything striped (see above), and fitted tops that accentuate the bump rather than overshadow it.
Utilizing accessories is a key part of style whether you’re pregnant or not. And they’re especially helpful when you’re pregnant, because most of the things you’ll wear will probably be pretty #basic.
Playing around with jewellery, scarves, and outerwear can take any basic maternity look from ‘meh’ to ‘yeaaaaaah’.
3. Makeup can lift your spirits
I’ve never been a big makeup girl. Mostly because I never knew what I was doing. But I do acknowledge its ability to lift the spirits when you’re feeling especially tired and humdrum. You may be exhausted on the inside, but who says you have to look it on the outside?
Now I’m definitely not saying you need to put on a full face every day – I’m #notaboutthatlife . But a little concealer and mascara to liven up the eyes or a touch of blush and swipe of lipstick can really make a difference even if you’re at home all day rocking a sweatshirt and leggings.
4. Indulge in something pretty & fun
As I mentioned most maternity clothing is pretty basic. Which makes sense because you’re only really wearing them for a finite amount of time and it’s easier on you (and your wallet, cause maternity clothes can be pricey) to invest in things that are versatile.
But, even with that in mind, I think it’s important to indulge in a few fun pieces like a printed jumpsuit or bold coloured dress. You’re only pregnant for 9 months, and yes there will be a lot of days/weeks/months where you won’t feel so great. So I say, indulge in a little fun where you can, it can take the edge off those bloody ridiculous hormones.
And that’s it! That’s how I’m going to combat the woe-is-me, I-feel-fat-and-gross mindset cycle.
I’ve got this and hey, if you’ve been feeling a little down when it comes to getting dressed – you’ve got this too!
Cheers to a life well-styled!